Green Peace 

A calm and warm place to go when everything seems dull.  It is so cool when you finally found a place where you can breathe properly for the first time. A special place where all the negatives things going on in your life just stopped for a couple of hours, minutes or even seconds.  A sense of peacefulness is so important for our mental health. Whatever keep our mind at ease, will make our mental health very pleased.  

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 Hi' my name is Avaloi ,and i  am here for you mentally and spiritually. i am here to go through it with you. you are not alone. 

Are you suffering in silence? This is where i come in, respectfully without any judgement. you are not alone ,with whatever it is that your going through, because there is millions of people out there, battling with their own personal mental health conditions. ' i am one of those people. i am here to remind you, that you are not alone, and to be your ears ,when  you want someone to listen. Reading  this your probably thinking, what's the catch. There is no catch, the only catch is, catching new potential friendships, and new ways of moving forward with your life. " yes its that simple.

The reason that i built  this website, is to help build others, on the way of building myself.  i have been suffering in silence ,with my own mental health issues, and i am now realizing that it hasn't gotten me anywhere, but more adding problems. it is not easy to open up to others, especially if you have issues with trusting people, but not trusting others ,can lead to a mental breakdown. it is essential to have people around, even if its a small group of people. 'I should know because i have been in my own circle alone ,with my two children ,for longer than i can remember, and its been so dark ,far too long. Its not that i haven't got people that cares. I just didn't think anyone cared, because I didn't care about myself. I am going to change that. Are you? we are about to change that together.

Things your passionate about: are you thinking about building a business of your own, but have no idea where to start, because you have no one to start with. lets build your business here ,by meeting potential business partners. making conversations can lead to success. This is what meeting new people is all about, not to say ,to use others, but for others to teach you new ideas. building a business alone will be your start ,but not your finished. meaning that 'you can start something, but it wont be fulfilled ,without other hands touching it.

   Great friendships creates a better future:
 honestly' i have been the do it on my own ,kind of girl. where has that gotten me, 'hmmmmmm let me think, absolutely no where. 'listen i am not down grading myself, because i have crossed many obstacles, but friendships and career, I have yet to cross. stubbornness leaves you with regrets, but that can be changed, if you know your flaws, just as much ,as you know your worth . Those who have left, meant that they weren't their to stay, but the ones who sheltered your flaws, during your wrongs ,is someone worth keeping around. friendships is not going to be soft ,and mushy all the time, that's what makes it so perfect . 

The beginning without any return: allow peace to follow you, and allow your darkness ,to lead you to the light.' higher father, let there be light again. inject this saying into your mind, or whatever saying, suits you. 'you can become the story teller, that helped rebuild your neighbors roof. I have herd this saying somewhere, but in a different context.

 open your fist, and release your anger: our first instinct ,of handling our anger ,is to punch something, 'opps, am about to say it. 'here goes, or to punch someone. hurting others ,is building another box of problems for ourselves. in order to release , first we need to let go. suppress on things, not on people. Example: what kind of sports are you interested in? you can use that to release your anger. 'for me ,it is writing. whenever i am feeling any type of emotions, good, or bad. i release my frustrations on paper.

sign me up to guide me in: I get that at the moment we cant really go anywhere, but  when everything  gets back to being abnormal, will you be ready to create your extraordinary into the world? whenever there is any important  events, going on after lockdown has passes, will you accept your invitations, or even if you wasn't invited, are you spontaneous enough to just show up? I am right there with you. sign me up, so that you can guide me in, vise-versa.

falling flat to blow your balloon: unusual context by an unusual mind. you have to fall, before you can walk, this is the original context. I have herd this saying contemporaneously, but it is facts.' honestly, i passionately dislike writing content that a lot of writers use. I only select the ones that my readers can relate to, an that i like, and then create my own. reading  something different, is always refreshing. It is ok not knowing, what's underneath the sand, before you sink your toes in. ‘sorry in advance, you will find that i write contents ,that you probably have no idea ,what i meant by them, but this means that particular content, might not relate to you. ‘ listen sometimes i write contents, that i have to read over, and over again, because i just didn't understand, my own writing.’ Its probably wise not to tell you guys that, but hey, its always good to be honest. 

look in before you block out: I am one of those people, that like to go over my day. Example: whatever happened to me during the day, say i done something that i could of handled differently, or someone done something to me, i would rethink it. overthinking is reliving the past, and that is a habit ,that i need to stop doing. catching your bad habits at a early stage is awesome, because when you know ,where your going wrong, you can change it easily. healthy thinking is great, unhealthy thinking can cause major mental health conditions. I am not a doctor, but we all know mental health conditions is no joke, so please take yours seriously. Beat the signs, before it beats you, look in before you block out. 

prove it to yourself before you lose it to others: ' I have missed so many opportunities, because i was too busy sulking about things that didn't happened. Things that obviously didnt mattered, because i cant even remember them. ' honestly it was about losing, what weren't meant for me. If something is meant to stick, i guarantee you that it will stick. life have a way of breaking the ground , that our footsteps leading towards. This is the universe way of correcting our path. missed opportunities, goes to the candidate after you. you was ahead of the line, but because you went off track, someone else gets your position. 'patience is like an annoying boyfriend of mine. It irritates, and frustrates me, but i am eager to have it. I am sure that we all, struggle with patience, especially if you want something terribly, but it seems like its a life time away.

 self doubts leads to self disappointment:  'I am so guilty of doubting myself. whenever i have a great idea, in that moment, I get so excited about it. Then minutes later i get that voice in my head, telling me i cant do it. ' you know that small minded voice, that like to ruin a great moment. Its time to reject that un- wanted voice.' yes i can, because i am., and i will, because i can. This is what i try to inject into my mind, whenever self doubts try to clock in. ' honestly sometimes i allow it to get the better of me. There are days when i would sulk in negativity.  'As i am writing down these words, i am doubting myself. we are what we eat, and we are what we feed others. negativity is everywhere, we can not hide from it, and we can not get rid of it, but we have a choice.  ' i decide to evolve around it.

intuitions is your protection: A lot of times we choose to go against, what our instinct tells us, by doing the completely opposite. Example: ' recently i was doing online shopping, i came across this fragrance website, perfume.com. before i started going through the perfumes on the page, i knew that there was something dodge about the website. My intuitions told me to buy my fragrances instore, just like i normally do, but with my fast self, i went against my truth. Anyways i bought some perfumes on the website, then once again my intuition said, check they reviews.'i did  just that. The reviews wasn't up to my standard, so i went back to the page and cancel my orders. ' woke up cheerfully the next morning, to find out that other unknown, transaction has been taken out of my account. Moral of the story is, the website is a fraud.' honestly, I was calmer, than i would usually be towards a situation like this, because i knew that i was in the wrong. 'why was i in the wrong? I totally dismissed, what my instinct, told me not to do. 

you will figure it out: If your seeking for answers, you will eventually find it. The fact that you are on the verge of finding yourselves, means that you care about you enough, to find the bigger, and better picture of you. we are the frame, for our adventures. life would be no fun, if its all been perfectly put together for us. It is so much more actively fun, creating our own adventurous un- perfect life experiences. life is an unlimited puzzle that we have to unscramble. some parts of the puzzle, is for us to work out on our own, and the other parts, is for family and friends, to help us with. 

 Remember it's not fake, if it hasn't  happen yet: Just because it' s not on your plate yet, doesn't mean that it won't be served. life is like a busy restaurant, your gift is already been paid for, you just need to patiently wait for it. hunger appreciate the mouthful. meaning: the longer the wait, the tastier the flavor will be. I am not saying to sit on your butt, and do nothing. what i am saying is that your ink will run out from time to time, but that doesn't mean the pen is empty, it just need to be refilled. sometimes we need a moment to pause, and take in the universe beautiful inspirational air. As humans we get so caught up in yesterday, and forgotten about brand new beginnings. Appreciate the nows, and the chances of tomorrows. whatever doesnt happen to you, was given to the person who was gifted for it. meaning: if it has cracks in it, then you are not the glue to hold it together. your gift is, whatever makes your soul happy. 

 It's not what they say, it's what they do: words means nothing, without actions behind them. some people will try to sell you honey, not knowing that you already have bees. givers are not there to be bought by sellers. Remember that, whenever someone try to play you, with their words. It is not about what others can do for you, it is about the equipment's, that they have to build a table together, vise versa. words are so easy to flush, if it doesn't stick. you might have the solid woods, to help build the table, and they might have the screws, paints, screwdrivers, and all the other tools requires. Everyone want to survive, but not everyone, want to build something solid to live for. surviving is not living, and living is not surviving. 

 It’s not gone, until you let it go in the wind: sometimes we allow our pain, to become a big part of our world. when we hold onto dirt ,it sticks to our skin, like a leech sucking on blood. ‘I dont know about you, but the thought of that image,
scares the shit out of me. excuse my foul language, but i just had to get that out. when you hold onto pain for too long,  you suffocate it. ‘ I bet your thinking ,what's wrong with that?. here is my answer, you can’t get out of jail, without bailing yourself out first. prove your innocence, by proving to yourself, that pain is the guilty one, not you. you are not in charge of the people, or things that hurts you, but you are in charge of the turning. you are the driver for your life, not the passenger. The passengers are the people, or things, that will eventually hurt you ,at some point in your life, how it ends, is up to you. 

change you, before the greatest part of you changes: I reject me, to become the better half of me. I don't want to wake up, ten years from now, laying on the same pillow. I refuse to live in jeopardy for the rest of my life. I deserve to serve myself, the best that life have to offer. Ten years from now ,i will make love to me, because the love that i will have for myself, is going to be the kind of love, that our ancestors told us about. I believe that i will have everything that my heart desires, and bonuses too, because i am going to live life, like when cool air, hits hot skin. It will happen for me, and it will happen for you too, because the universe believes in me and you.

work but no gain: when you feel like your doing everything possible to get up the ladder, but you don't see any result. sometimes its not about what you do, it’s about  how you feel while doing it. you might like the look of something, but that doesn't mean that you will love it. you will like a million things, the chance of love, in that million is only one. my point is, do what you love, not what you think that you will love, because when you love something, you don't need to think. ‘I am so guilty, when it comes to doing things, that i thought might, open the next chapter for me. none of what i have done so far, have worked out in advance. 

 Don’t give up on people, or things, because they, or it, stopped working. Example: This morning i switch my kettle on, and it wasn't working, and i kept trying, and it still wasn't working. anyways ,i rubbed it, and gave it a kiss, as bizarre as that sounds,’ yes i did. went outside, and did some writing, then went back in, cleaned my eyelids, because i took my fake lashes off. Then i tried once again, and it came on, and off. The third time it stayed on. higher is good ‘yes he his. Moral of the story is, not because someone, or something stopped working, doesn’t mean that they, or it ,will never work again. My kettle didn't give up, because i didn’t give up on my kettle. 

 love without appearance: Are you single, hoping to find love. Feeling lost, without having that someone in your life, that makes you feel like everything is going to be brighter around you, because you feel so high in love, it makes you forget about the rough days. you still can be in love, being single. 'gonna sound really cringe'. you have yourself to give all that love too. why not keep that special love for yourself, until the day comes, when you met, the right person to share it with. Be the person, that you fantasized about. just imagined, how high you would feel, on you. Nothing is more sexier, than a woman, or a man, who considered themselves as sexy. Confidence goes a long way, its way better, than four play. ' see what i did there?. catchy isn't it? ok enough of that. 'I really, be thinking that i have bars'. Love is so much more giving, when it comes from a person, that flows like the ocean. "Where are we going, where diving in the ocean, there is something about you, that keeps me flowing". I.e. that is a actual song, by the way.' A song by Brandy Norwood. If you was feeling it, its call unconditional love. 

The pressure of becoming, something that your not:  Are you feeling pressured, by the people around you? sometimes the ones we love, have other plans for our future. Example: our parents always have another life planned out for us. I.e. completely different from the life, that we want for ourselves. Being pressured by our love ones. to become someone that we are not, can be really challenging, because you of course dont want to disappoint the ones you love, but at the same point, you dont want to do something, that you have no interest of doing. Are you having trouble, expressing how you are feeling, to family members, are maybe to a partner? sometimes speaking with your words, unfortunately doesn't always work in your favor. Maybe you can just act, on the things that you want to do. Rather than trying to explain it, just do it. when your love ones, see you doing something, that makes you happy, they will trust your decision, by adjusting to it. work in the favor, of what you want, not in the favor, of what others want for you.

over prepared, of the over thinkers: when you are so set on thinking one-sided. whether it’s during a conversation that you are having with someone, or something that happened to you, due to your life experiences. Being over prepared, to over think about things, is excessively draining. It takes up a lot of your time. you are so focus on the negative thinking, rather than concentrating on the positive thinking, you consume so much on the negative things that happened. exaggerate, and misconstrued something you herd, more over, what have actually been said. over thinkers click in on the virus part of the brain, rather than the pure part of the brain. over- thinking is a full time job. At the end of the day, you are really exhausted, not because you did a great day work, but because you redone, the things that have already been done.

A few strategy that might help you separate yourself from negative thinking, to positive thinking: No! no is really important, when you want to get yourself, out of a unwanted situation. Saying no to negative thinking, when it try to clock in, is a great strategy, because you are reminding yourself  that you are InControl. Being conscious of the unconscious! knowing the unconscious side of you, is also another great strategy, because you know when to intervene. using your conscious to defeat the unconscious. set a comfort place in the mind! setting a comfort place to go to, whenever you are feeling down, is extremely important because its a get away ticket, to get out of an uncomfortable position. another great strategy ,because you not only have somewhere safe to lean on, but you are also setting a balance for yourself. A comfort place could be multiple of things, such as love ones, hobbies etc... someone, or things that gets you all bubbly inside. 

overbearing, of the hard of hearings: when you are  overly polite, and patient to people that just doesn’t take your kindness seriously. people that constantly deflect anything you said to them. everything goes through one ear, then straight out the other. Bearing the hard of hearings, is a energy sucker, because you find yourself being repetitive over and over again. saying the same things  a thousand times, and over. This is normal when you are dealing with your children, but the line end, when you are dealing with a adult. you shouldn't have to renew a conversation more than once, or maybe twice. Absorbing someone else nonsense, makes you look like, you doesn't have any sense. “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me”. you are the issue, that allows others to add other issues, that causes more adding problems. enabling someone bad behavior, will only let them throw more tantrums, because they see that you are either a big softy, or a idiot. ‘I am not saying that you are stupid, or a idiot by the way. I am just saying how the abusers see your kindness. people that cares about you, will never take your kindness for weakness, because they respect you on a high standard. 

The interference of fear: fear is such a massive part of  the reason, that some of us hasn’t  fail on anything, because we are so scared to try the things, that we captivate in our mind as dangerous. Things that can actually bring us more good than harm, but because our fear have calculated those things as red, our brain react to them in a negative way. fear is apart of our nervous system, so we all have fear in us. our body is built to suspect any kind of danger, whether it’s active, or proactive. some of us hold onto fear, because it’s a way to try to control the uncontrollable. fear is self-abuse, and self-abandonment. living in fear unconsciously, and consciously: knowing that you are scared, but not knowing the harm that being scared, cause on your body. signing in daily on fear, weakened the nervous system, which can cause health issues. One of those health issues, is mental health problems. The reason why fear, can mess with us mentally is, because fear doesn’t just come an go straight away. It plays on our mind constantly, especially if we went through a drastic experience. 

knowing the power of self- control: when you are entwined with who you truly are internally. knowing the capability that you have to control yourself, whenever a compromising situation arises. The power of self- control, is being able to rise above, the ones that truly needs your love. Taking yourself out of jail, before being put in jail, for something that could have been avoided. As we all know, biting your tongue at times, is extremely difficult, especially if someone kept digging a hole, under your feet's, but being able to eat sweets, when you are rather feeling really bitter, is such a strong power to have. 

Lost now, find later: when you feel completely lost of self, and have no idea where to turn, or who to go to. ‘ ! It’s ok. you are on the journey of wholeness. The feeling of losing yourself is good. ‘I know that this sounds really backward, and scary, but it is necessary. ‘It’s kind of like knocking down, a broken home, and rebuilding it. starting from fresh requires healing. You won’t be able to heal, if you are wearing the same skin. ‘That would be like wearing the same clothes over, and over again, without washing them. ‘! Sounds really disgusting doesn’t it?. First you have to strip yourself bear, before you can breathe cleaner air. If you don’t feel lost, at some point in your life, means that you add limitations to your life. Limitless people, are people that strive higher everyday. People that tries  to find another version of themselves. ‘! no, it’s not a easy task, but it is a task worth the struggles. Life is like a tremendous lost. ‘ you cry until your eyes feels sore, you get up, wash your face , and cry all over again, until you feel the strength, that you need to carry on. ‘Change is necessary, if you want to become extraordinary’.

 Absent speaks louder than words: sometimes the only way to let others hear us is by not been seen or herd at all.  people will miss you the most when you make them think that they have already lost you. its been a while old friends, and i can only hope that each and everyone of you have been great to yourselves. what can I say' on the bridge of finding myself I have been around many bendy corners trying to piece my missing puzzle together. Although life is not yet where i want it to be, things are not as terrible as they once were. I am still single, as i am aware that i am the relationship that i need at this moment in time. recently i found myself on my knees praying, even though i am lost for words most of the time.  whenever I feel no words coming out i just stay there in silence hoping my thoughts are herd. if we allow our pain to beat time, we will miss everyday hoping to get a do-over. how are you? I know that it seems like i have disappeared, but just know that i am here.  on this rocky bridge  that i call my own, my footsteps are a reminder that i am not where i once was, progress have been made along the way. During the not so cheerful moments always remember that their is someone powerful up there cheering you on. we all have our own beliefs, and some of us don't have any belief at all. one thing that i know for sure is that we are surrounded with magic around us. when we look upon the stars, and watch the ocean closes in on dry land is something magical .